Dating Q-A – He Let Me Pay

Dating Q&A - He let me pay

He let me pay

I met this guy online and we recently started going out together. Well, the first time we went out, he paid for dinner and I offered to leave the tip and he let me. Then we went out for ice cream and I paid for that.

Then on our second date, I casually said that I’d get it and he let me pay.

Meanwhile, he asked me out both times and I just can’t believe he let me pay for anything. I guess I’m a little old-fashioned like that.

Should I tell him how I feel or just drop the relationship altogether?

Nicky

Nicky, are you kidding me? Do you even hear yourself? You offered to pay, you offered to get it. Casually or not, if you don’t want to do something, then don’t offer to do it.

This is what blows me away. Do you expect him to be psychic and figure out what you’re really thinking when you’re saying something else?

If you don’t believe you should pay, then don’t offer to pay. It’s that simple, really. This gentleman is only taking you up on your offers; he’s not shoving the bill down your throat when it arrives.

Amy

Girlfriend’s male friends

Is it normal for a girlfriend to have a bunch of male friends? I recently started dating this girl exclusively and just assumed that she would stop hanging out with all these guys but she hasn’t.

Is it unrealistic of me to expect her to stop hanging out with them?

Cal

Cal, your girlfriend had all these male friends when you first met so why are you shocked that she kept them around even after you agreed to be exclusive?

“Exclusive” does not mean ditching all the friends you have to be with each other. It’s obvious that these friends are important to her so if that makes you uncomfortable, perhaps you should reevaluate what you’re really looking for.

Presenting her with an ultimatum will not bode well for you. So you can either accept the fact that she has platonic male friends or you can move on and find yourself a girl who thinks more along the lines like you.

Amy

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