Women Who Use Sex As A Weapon

Reader question #2: Reverse psychology
My boyfriend sent me a text recently saying that he felt like things weren’t working out between us and that maybe we should cool it for a bit.

I texted him back saying that I agree and that he shouldn’t contact me anymore. Well, it seems the reverse psychology worked; he begged me to take him back 2 weeks later and is now like a puppy dog, madly in love with me.

The thing is, he wanted to break up with me just a few weeks ago. Should I confront him about why? Should I tell him the truth about how I tricked him? Or should I just enjoy being with him and take advantage of what I have?

Sheryl

Susan J. Elliott’s answer:
You should definitely find out why he thought things weren’t working out. You can’t keep luring him back forever. That’s a game and good relationships are not about games.

If him being in love like a puppy dog depends on you playing games, eventually you’re going to run out of games.

You want to be cared for because of who you are, not because you’re manipulating someone into it.

It is important to find out why he thought things weren’t working out and it’s important to realize he may do it again. However, this time don’t go “no contact” to play a game.

Go no-contact because you need to for you and stay NC no matter what he says or does.