Do married men leave their wives?
R Don Steele is the famed author of How To Date Young Women: For Men Over 35, Body Language Secrets and A Man’s Guide To Women, and has provided his dating expertise in over 400 radio interviews. With a no-nonsense approach to the dating world, R Don Steele tells it like it is and helps men find the women they want every time.
Question 1: Dating married man
I am currently dating a man I am completely in love with. The problem is, he is married with two kids. He told me from the get-go that he would never leave his wife but he treats me so great when we’re together that I’m sure he’ll leave her to be with me once all his kids turn 18 (in 2 years).
Perhaps I’m being naive (that’s what all my friends tell me), but I really believe that this is the man for me.
If he won’t be with me, then I’d rather be alone. Do you think I’m fooling myself? By the way, he’s 54 and I’m 26, but I really believe that our age difference is irrelevant here.
Dee
R Don Steele’s Answer:
The age difference is not “irrelevant” to him! It is one of the primary reasons he’s with you! It’s evolution! It’s primal. Men want a fertile woman. Young women are fertile!
As for marrying you? When a man says that he won’t bluntly and firmly, that’s what he means and that’s what his plan is. That does not mean he cannot change is mind.
It does mean that, as far as he’s concerned, you know the score and you like what you two have without the promise of marriage. Further, love is so rare and so wonderful, I believe in caring for it and tending it and making it grow and blossom any place whenever it happens.
However, I do not know if he loves you. So my recommendation is for you to become more romantic with him, however you want to do that. If you two have just been meeting at your place and having sex, and he leaves you and goes home, you must plan a date that is romantic – something he can’t resist.
You have to gradually ease him off his “sex only” mindset and into a dating relationship. If he does profess his love for you and is not romantic, you must express your desire for him to be romantic with you.
Finally, I believe that it is unwise to give up on him until you have followed the above plan and he professes his deep undying love for you but still won’t leave his wife.
That would be in about six months after you have a loving sexual romance full of love being expressed verbally and physically shown.
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Great piece.
Mr. Steele has hit the nail on the head. You can’t get better input than this.
Once again Don Steele is right on target. I’m one of the few married men who did leave his wife and two teenage daughters for “the younger woman.” She was 23 years younger. The motivation was sexual and it was incredible.
Brilliant advice and insight
Can’t get much better and simpler a recommendation than that. All Dee has to do is do it and pay attention. Even if she does not get what she wants she’ll at least find out what is what.
I agree with Mr. Steele’s assessment of the situation. As a married man of 39 years (to the same wife), I can still understand attraction to other women. As I told my wife many times when she caught me (and they always do) looking at other women: “I am married but not buried.” It is not unnatural for men to look elsewhere. In the back of our minds, we always think, “what if…?” But that is not something we act upon our emotions or instincts, every time.
Steele is right on. Many times I have told a woman I am dating I won’t do something, only to change my mind later.
Right on! Love is worth everything!
Got it right as usual Don. A man that knows the score when it comes to human interaction and is not afraid to be brutally honest with it.
I’ve followed Don’s teachings for 9 years now. He has never been wrong, because it is founded in experience. The article handles both questions simply and true. Keep on teaching us all Don!
Advice is dead on! I got the married one that is 11 years older than I am. He left his wife if 23 years.
I agree with this advice.
What do the statistics say! Usually NO right! My observations have been these situations usually end ugly!!!