My Girlfriend’s Guy Friend

My girlfriend's guy friend

R Don Steele is the famed author of How To Date Young Women: For Men Over 35, Body Language Secrets and A Man’s Guide To Women, and has provided his dating expertise in over 400 radio interviews. With a no-nonsense approach to the dating world, R Don Steele tells it like it is and helps men find the women they want every time.

Question #1: My girlfriend’s guy friend
My girlfriend has a male friend who had some interest in her before. She says they are friends and she has no interest in him more than a friend.

The thing is, she told me that when I would meet him, I might get angry because of the way he is around her. He will sit right up against her, put his arm around her, give her hugs the whole time. Some of her friends have said that when they are together, it seems that there is nobody else in the room.

She also goes to meet him for drinks and dinner and they sometimes hangout for over 5 hours. She says they have been friends for a long time and she in just not interested in him. Should I just trust her?

Richard

R Don Steele’s answer:
The best info I have ever seen, heard, read is by Chris Rock, Bring the Pain.

He says, “That guy is her emergency co*k. When you break up with her, she breaks the glass and takes out her emergency co*k.”

Point?

Men and women are not designed to be “friends”; they are designed to be sex partners by evolution.

As a male, it is possible to have a female friend you are not attracted to. It’s the same for women if the guy is fat or gay, or in some other way not even close to her dream man.

Otherwise “friends” is “friends with benefits”. So, no, you shouldn’t just trust her.

Question #2: Developing feelings
I met this girl on a dating site and we exchanged some email and phone calls. Although we had a lot in common and really enjoyed each other’s company, when she asked me if I want to take this relationship a bit further, I refused because, at the time, I was just not physically attracted to her.

She accepted it and we continued to hang out every now and then. The thing is, though, I have since developed romantic feelings for her but I just don’t know how to tell her.

Please advise.
Tony

R Don Steele’s answer:
You say, “Debbie, I have developed romantic feelings for you” and smile… “let’s go on a real date”. Now smile and wait. Have a plan A and a plan B. The Steel Balls Principle is be real!