Why nice guys suck
Ah, the proverbial “nice guy” – the one that always gets dumped by the heartless bitch who would rather be beaten up by Chris Brown. No, no, no, you have it all wrong.
“Nice guy” is a misnomer because it’s not that a guy is too nice, it’s all these other reasons why women end up dumping these so-called nice guys and going after the more mysterious and thrilling men.
Nice guys are insecure
No one wants to hang out with an insecure person, especially when that insecure person is a man who claims to love his woman. With a desperate need to be loved or even liked by another person, it’s painful to watch a man who needs constant attention.
Insecurity in a man is akin to a woman who scratches her crotch – no one wants to be around that. Ask any woman and she’ll tell you that she wants a strong man who she feels is her protector. She does not want a man she has to reassure every 4 minutes.
Nice guys smother women
I enjoy spending a lot of time with my boyfriend of the moment, but I also like spending time away from him. How else would I ever miss him? Nice guys unfortunately want to spend every waking moment with their girl and do not give her room to breathe. Is anyone else feeling claustrophobic?
The nice guy just doesn’t know when to back off and would even move into his girl’s place if she made even the slightest joke about it. He wants to hold her hand; he wants to snuggle; he wants to be by her side and kiss her even when she has morning breath. It’s almost creepy.
Nice guys are too available
The nice guy will drop any and everything to be by his woman’s side. If she needs a lift home from work at 3 in the morning, he’ll be there to pick her up. If she needs him to pick up her dry cleaning and drop it off at her place, you betcha!
He will make himself available all the time and this will definitely get tedious after a while. Although, if all a woman wants is a chauffeur and assistant, then she has likely found her man.
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Thanks for the info. As a “Nice guy in need of reform” its good for me to hear the facts laid out like this. All self-described nice guys should read this and take it to heart. I know from experience that nice guys can get frustrated when we see a girl that we’re into keep saying that “all she wants is a nice guy for once”, then we try to step into the picture and give her what she wants and nothing happens. Now I understand why.
Right on the money. I hope more men read this article.
Where can we get more infromation on how to be more assertive and confident?
We will eventually furnish an article on how to be the alpha male because it’s high time the nice guy got some.
Soooooo…women want a*sholes who ignore them and are totally unreliable. Got it, thanks!
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Bad boy types stay exciting for a few years, then most women move on. Once the play is out of their system (just like in guys), people change their perspectives on life. Their choices in lifestyle, dress, and romantic partners change as well.
As a woman heads into her 30s she transitions and begins to look for a husband and father for her children. She will look for slightly different qualities in her mate and put more emphasis and higher value on personal qualities like honesty, work ethic, family values, responsibility, and similar lifestyle than she does on excitement and sex appeal.
so today in 2010 nice guys are not in! who wants upset in a relsonship life has alot as it is ! why add to it ? with the woman you love if being nice makes her happy why not?
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Is this really describing nice guys, or just insecure guys? All of these behaviours are typical of guys with an insecure attachment style. It is, indeed, possible to be nice and have a secure attachment style. It’s possible to be nice and not smother. It’s possible to be nice and have a backbone. Go figure.
I’m dating a wonderful guy who treats me very well. He’s also very confident, always sticks up for himself, and never hesitates to defend and protect me. He’s definitely more affectionate than most guys, but he doesn’t “smother” me. Nice guys don’t necessarily have all the drawbacks you listed.
this is funny because my guy is a super nice guy who isn’t “clingy” and at the same time doesn’t “slap my ass in public” and “not call for a couple of days”. He is always texting me or letting me know he loves me with out being a push over or weak minded. He’s serious when it calls for and fun when it’s not. I think this article was slightly flawed.
Who labeled clingy, insecure guys as “nice?” These articles always make me laugh. I can’t believe they are served up as serious advice. So, a guy with manners is automatically a nice guy. It is no wonder single women can’t find someone special These articles don’t help, except as a source of comedic relief.
I find it funny that this article is titled why nice guys suck. Nice guys are capable of not being needy or clingy I think what you have mistaken for a nice guy is actually just a needy guy.
It is possible to have go out of your way for someone and do the right thing with out having to always be by the women’s side or go out your way for people. Eventually even as a nice guy you have an essence of selfishness. That you should be taking care of what you need to 1st but keeping a balance of paying attention to the women and not ignoring her. Just like there is nice and being a complete D bag. Girls don’t usually help there own situation either. They complain nice guy drives them to go after these “mysterious men” most who just end up being d-bags. using the excuse being with a clingy guy drove them to the opposite side of the spectrum. No you just have piss poor judgement and don’t see through facades. So it works on both ends.
Nice guys don’t suck, Not actual nice guys who are strong, confident in themselves and know what they want. Clingy need guys do suck, But so do there counter parts the prick / dbag who doesn’t actually give a shit about a women. But like everyone you have to shift through the garbage to find what you are looking for. I believe because of the clingy factor women do confuse being a d-bag with being strong, but really they are just as “weak” as the clingy guy.
Also the problem with strong confident people is they tend to look for people on their level and if you be a guy or girl and you aren’t on their level most likely that relationship will not last long.