Sex Q-A – Smegma, Vibrator Needs & More

Sex Q&A - Smegma, vibrator needs & more

My man has smegma

Whenever I go down on my boyfriend, there’s always this “stuff” on his penis. It’s whitish and has a faint odor. He says it’s normal, but I think it’s gross. What is it?

Grossed Out

Hi Grossed,

Although you don’t say so in your letter, I imagine your boyfriend is not circumcised because it sounds to me like you’re talking about a significant smegma buildup.

Smegma is a white secretion of the sebaceous glands of the foreskin. It’s a normal occurrence and helps the penis to clean and lubricate itself. And when your boyfriend showers, he should be able to wash away the excess smegma by pulling his foreskin back and rinsing the glans (head) of the penis.

Unfortunately, the fact that you say he always has it indicates that he either doesn’t wash very often, or doesn’t know how to properly wash his penis.

Smegma is not harmful so there isn’t anything to worry about, but as a matter of hygiene, maybe your man needs a lesson in proper cleansing. I suggest that the next time the two of you are preparing to have an intimate encounter, you start things off in the shower and take turns washing each other. This way, you can clean his penis to your satisfaction and feel confident about going down on him. Just don’t break out a magnifying glass and a loofah.

Angie

Sex causes pain

Hi Angie,

Sometimes, when I’m on top of my husband during intercourse, it really hurts. It feels like his penis is hitting something and I am unable to continue. Is there something wrong with my insides?

Please help,
In Pain

Dear In,

It’s normal that sex in certain positions causes internal pain and it’s possible that it’s not a sign of anything drastic.

There are a few reasons why you may be experiencing pain, among which are a lack of full arousal on your part, not enough lubrication, or the angle of his penis hitting your cervix in a way that’s uncomfortable.

Of course, it’s also possible that the pain is related to an infection or STD, but because it’s not constant, these are unlikely candidates for what you’re experiencing.

What I recommend you do is visit your gynecologist and ask him or her why you are experiencing this sensation whenever you make love and are on top. And there’s no need to be embarrassed; it’s their job to help you figure this out. There may be a very simple solution for what ails you.

Angie

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