Sex Q-A – Strap Ons and More

Sex advice - strap ons and more

Is my boyfriend gay?

My boyfriend recently asked me use a “strap on” on him in bed. To start, I had no idea what it was so I said that I would think about it. Well, I found out and now I’m starting to worry that maybe he has a secret desire for men. Is my boyfriend gay?

Don’t Want No Brokeback

Hi Don’t,

If a man enjoys having his anal region explored that does not make him gay. He trusted you enough to be open about his sexual desires so it’s unfair of you to conclude that he’s gay simply because you’re not familiar with the request.

Many heterosexual couples engage in anal play, from both perspectives, and if you do want to explore his desires, start small with a finger or two and then progress to what he asked for.

If you’re not comfortable with it, however, keep in mind that he let you know what he wants in bed, and if you can’t fulfill that, there will always be that gap between you in the bedroom. Sex, after all, is an important aspect of a successful relationship.

Angie

I want a threesome

Angie,

I fantasize constantly about having a threesome with my husband and one of my girlfriends. I imagine him having sex with her while I lick her breasts and I become so aroused, I orgasm.

I approached him about it and he says he’d be fine with it, so I long as I don’t get all crazy after all is said and done. What do you think?

Jane

Hey Jane,

While the fantasy of engaging in a threesome sounds delectable to many, the reality may result in feelings and reactions you may not be expecting. Your husband is right about the “get all crazy” part because if he treats her the way he treats you in bed, or seems a little too interested in her during the threesome, you may not feel quite as excited about it.

Sharing your partner requires a very high level of tolerance and maturity, and most of us can’t deal with it.

For a moment, imagine your husband having sex with your friend and ignoring you. Now imagine him making noises that demonstrate how desirable he finds her. If you think that none of these things will bother you, then you make the decision.

Personally, I enjoy fantasizing about threesomes and watching my guy engage in sex with another woman, we even discuss these things during lovemaking, but I know I couldn’t handle that realistically.

Good luck,
Angie

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